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Hardcover
Publisher: Greenleaf Book Group, LLC
ISBN13: 9781929774104
Condition: NEW
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A mental health crisis faces American teens right now--and it is one we can solve. Hundreds of thousands of gay teens face traumatic depression, fear, rejection, persecution, and isolation--usually alone. Studies show they are 190 percent more likely to used drugs or alcohol and four times more likely to attempt suicide. Homophobia and discrimination are at the heart of their pain. Love, support, and acceptance--all within our power to give--can save them. This book is for: clergy, parents, educators, and politicians who cause harm with their words and actions; parents of gay teens; teens navigating this difficult time; and fair-minded people who want to help end the harm. Here are revealing stories by forty diverse Americans, some well known and some not, plus insights from straight clergy and parents explaining their support of gay people as whole human beings guaranteed equal rights by our Constitution.
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Excellent experience. Book shipped quicker than expected. In my mailbox the next day. Book was used but in excellent condition.
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| Amazon purchase: Must Read |
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I read Crisis per the suggestion of our minister. This was in conjunction with reading Jack Rogers Jesus, the Bible and Homosexuality. Both of these books are must reads for anyone, and/or their families, struggling to reconcile sexual identity with their faith, especially when their faith experience labels them as abominations, sinners, etc. These books affirm that you are fine and accepted just the way God created you, whomever you perceive God to be.
It is also for those who believe the above labels are true within their faith experience, and for those who cannot understand homosexuality from any perspective. Please read with an open heart and mind. This issue is not a simple black or white issue. It involves people we all know and love.
Thank you,
Straight but not Narrow
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| straight talk on growing up gay |
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If you grow up gay, this book shows, you have two choices.
First, you can manufacture a false and increasingly neurotic self that must lie at all costs, to all people, all the time, merely to survive. You must compartmentalize your public and private lives, deny what you know to be true about yourself, and vigilantly censor yourself in everything you do, say, and feel. Living this way leads to mental, physical and emotional exhaustion, self-hatred, suicidal ideation, cutting, and chronic frustration. This first scenario begs the question, "how long can you deny who you really are?" As one contributor put it, "the closet is a terrible place to live."
But there's a second option. You can let down your guard and live spontaneously as your true and authentic self. But in this scenario you face catastrophic losses in your church, synagogue, family, job, school and community. For some gays, living authentically comes at an unacceptably high price. Among religious believers and before God, could you live with being called an abomination who ought to be stoned to death (Leviticus 20:13) and who will suffer forever in hell? Would you be willing to risk full and final rejection by your family? How well do you think you could endure daily taunts and physical abuse at school? Do you think you'd risk your career for the sake of authenticity? Nor is honoring your true self psychologically easy: "The only way I survived as a gay man," writes one person, "was by embracing everything I was taught to hate about myself."
I was deeply moved by these short (4-5 pages each), simple, and intensely personal stories. They're organized around four themes: religion, family-community, work and school. The authors come from a wide variety of backgrounds, from white evangelicals to black Baptists, devout Mormons, orthodox Jews, and conservative Catholics. There are young teenagers, famous politicians, and two professional athletes. Most of the stories (31 of 40) are written by men, and there's no story written by a transgendered person. The last two stories are written by mothers who describe how they lost their gay teenagers to suicide and a brutal murder.
With remarkable regularity and similarity, every story witnesses to "the power and tenacity of our social conditioning" which punishes gay people. They refute the discredited but prevalent ideas that people choose or can change their sexual orientation. In fact, almost every gay person in this book has done everything in their power to try to change--denial, aversion therapies, "reparative" therapy, behavior modification, overcompensation, electric shock treatments, prayers, counseling, and even exorcism. But if you flip the question you understand the futility of trying to alter what cannot change: did you choose to be heterosexual or could you change yourself to a gay orientation?
This tragic mental health crisis, writes Gold, is entirely preventable and solvable. His book does a tremendous service in taking readers down that long road to wholeness and healing.
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Interesting stories of the damage done by religious bigotry, of which there is a shameful and on going history. "Can't we all just get along?"
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The collection of essays contained in this book touched my heart. After reading this I felt less alone, knowing there were others in this world who grew up similarly. I could not fathom how some parents could treat their own children that way, in those situations.
Give this book to everyone close to you. But also, give it to those who have condemned you. So they can be informed of how all this negativity is affecting the young. Their sociality, their mentality and most importantly, their natural human emotions.
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