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Paperback
Publisher: Alyson Books
The first and only guide for gay men on how to make sure that when they go out looking to hook up, they don't come home disappointed. Jonathan Bass breaks it all down so that any guy can be getting more than he's getting now. In this book, you'll find the pros and cons of where to hunt: bars, clubs, sex clubs, gay resorts, vacation spots. And because this is the online age, there's also a chat room guide: what certain phrases mean and what to look out for-because we all know men don't lie, right? You'll get tips on the importance of self-assuredness and knowing how to flirt; how to convince a guy to try something new (like you!); how to send the right signals; how to make the other guys he's checking out look bad; and how to use your friends to help you get laid. You will also learn how to navigate the gray area between one-night stands and dating, and finally you'll learn sleeping-around etiquette along the lines of how not to be rude when you're being a naughty boy.
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| Have Your Bedroll Ready |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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Hysterically funny and spot on true to form. I learned so much I didn't know about cracking the gay code of dating.
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| Some Helpful Hints |
| Customer Rating: 3 out of 5 |
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Bass, Jonathan. "How to Get Laid: The Gay Man's Essential Guide to Hot Sex", Alyson, 2005.
Some Helpful Hints
Amos Lassen
Obviously this is not a book for everyone. Some guys need no help in finding sexual partners. But, of course, that is not everyone and even those who have no trouble, there is always a little something extra to learn. The book maintains that this is "a guide for gay men on how to make sure that when the out looking to hook up, they don't come home disappointed." Bass breaks cruising so that every guy gets lucky (this is his boast, not mine). He tells us where the best hunting sites are and gives us a guide to chat rooms and how to deal with them. There are tips on flirting, dating and one-nighters as well as some helpful sexual behavior tips.
Probably this book is best for the new guys who are just entering gay life and have no idea how to navigate it. So much of what Bass has to say deals with each person's self-esteem and body language. The book is written with tongue-in-cheek humor and it is very witty as well as being very smart. It is not insulting as some have claimed because it is meant to be in fun even though there are some valuable hints here. There is some fluff here but there is also a good deal of valuable information. Sure, each person has to establish his own style but, as we all know, there is room for improvement in everything we do.
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| Entertaining and Informative |
| Customer Rating: 3 out of 5 |
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They say you shouldn't judge a book by its cover. If you took a look at this cover and expect a heart-warming account of relationships and how to find your one true love ... this book is not for you. This book is entertaining and funny but does, in some humorous manner, get down to the basics of gay sex and hooking up. It covers flirting, how to pick up on other guy's flirting, where to meet guys, how to negotiate sex and many other topics. People who complain about this book being insulting and sophomoric and not helpful ... well, this book opens with an explanation of what you're going to get from this and says if you're looking for more helpful tips on gay men and serious, long-term relationships, look elsewhere. This is pretty light reading with a good chapter on safe sex practices and STDs, something that many people are not educated on.
In short, this is a short book that is actually packed with information. It's not all fluff; yes, there are some sophomoric parts to it that pretty much dish on sex as it is and talks about men as most of us behave but then there are very professional, educated chapters such as the information provided on safe sex and STDs. Check it out.
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| Very Helpful |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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I guess I could be described as a "newby" a relatively attractive guy who could use some helpful hints when it comes to hooking up. I got some useful tips regarding confidence, posture and pickup lines. I recommend this book for all gay men looking to score a little more than they are right now. In the advertisement , it said the book would give tips on how to make the other guys he's checking look bad. Unless I'm blind, there was nothing in the book about that. So for that reason I only gave it 4 stars
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| Not helpful |
| Customer Rating: 2 out of 5 |
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I found most of the advice in this book to be overly obvious and not very useful. Like where to go to meet guys--bars, saunas, gyms, gourmet food stores--duh! Tell me something I haven't already thought of, and tell me some lines that are really funny and not over the top stuff like, "Where can I find the freshest meat?" Who in the world really says that? I felt like the author treated the whole business of cruising and meeting guys to be a big joke, not the fine art that it is, and something that we really need to work on. Also, some of the stuff in there was just wrong--like "foreplay is for girls!" What??? I don't know what planet this guy is from, but foreplay, anticipation, and attraction are the hottest parts of chemistry that two males can share. If you want real advice on this, I think you're better off looking in the straight aisle, i.e. Double Your Dating by David deAngelo (a downloadable e-book). I've picked up some great tips there and have used them on boys.
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