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Publisher: Creative Wisdom Books
Imagine.....You have finally met Mr. Right. He's handsome, sexy, charming, intelligent, articulate, and financially successful. He even portrays the role of an excellent father. He does not smoke, drink or use drugs and he has a decent credit history. You marry him and buy your dream house in the suburbs. Your children attend the best schools and you live in a wonderful neighborhood. You're finally living the American dream, but one day you wake up and realize Your Prince Charming is really a lying Queen. You can't believe it. It can't be true. No... not him and no not you, but deep in your heart, you know it's true. All the pieces of the puzzle were there.... but, you couldn't connect the dots because your heart refused to believe what your brain and your intuition were telling you. What happened to your dream, your life, your sense of security? Something has suddenly snatched it all away, but where were you? Why didn't you see it coming? You discover your husband is secretly sleeping with men. He is part of the secretive subculture known as the down-low. You feel shocked and disgusted, ashamed, humiliated, angry, stupid, foolish, victimized, hurt, betrayed, deceived, shattered, confused, devastated and used. You feel dirty, violated and terrified about the possibility of being infected with HIV or some other nasty STD. You find yourself on an emotional roller coaster, plunging deep into despair, desperate to get off. You search frantically for answers, validation for your feelings and even something... anything to prove you wrong. You surf the net desperately seeking information. However, you discover that the on-line support groups are geared toward helping the gay person come to terms with their own sexuality, but nothing to help you. You re left feeling ignored, overlooked and victimized all over again. The purpose of this book is to provide support and resources for the wives, lovers and families that have been victimized by homosexual men masquerading as straight. Our intent is to educate and inform women that may encounter men on the down-low and support the women who have experienced it already. We believe the account of our experiences and what we have learned will bring about awareness and a heightened sense of self-responsibility. We believe our lives should be in our own hands and not in the hands of those who only speak about this subject to defend the down-low, to further misinform women and/or to make money. We have chosen to write this book in order to speak for ourselves and not allow someone else to tell our story. This is not a book full of statistics, articles or scientific data. It was written by two women who have experienced the anguish and misery of being married to men on the down-low. They will share from the depths of their hearts, souls and minds as they tell their stories and the stories of other women who have lived through this experience. Contrary to the beliefs of some authors, there are telltale signs when a man is on the down-low. We will address those signs and answer many of your questions that have been ignored by other books written on the subject. Please visit our website at WWW.STRAIGHTUPTRUTH.COM
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| Definitely Worth It! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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The Straight-Up Truth about the Down-Low was a very informational book. It's a quick and easy read. I read it in 2 evenings. I recommend EVERY woman read this book because what you don't know WILL hurt you!
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| College Student |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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This book was very informative. I learned a lot about the Down-Low life style from a woman's point of view. I have read On The Down-Low by J.L. King and it seems as if there were details left out that would be very helpful in learning about the difference between a man being curious and actually being on the D.L. This book was very interesting and I would recommend this book to all my friends also I would read the next book that Joy Marie writes.
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| The straight up truth! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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i dealth with this back in 1991-92 while in high school. my high school sweet heart thought he'd use me as a way to prove he wasn't gay. i felt i was the only woman on earth that had gone through this and turns out that i'm not. TSUTATDL (acronym for the title) is a must read for all women. this episode in my life prompted me to write Blind Temptations the Seduction of Sex, Lies & Betrayal. At one point i was Chante so i know how it feels to find yourself in this painful situation.
i love the begining where there were DL profiles and telling us what to look for. the terms they use with the meaning was another helpful bit of advice. Although, due to my experience i can spot a man on the DL a mile away. i still learned a lot from this book and didn't know it all when it comes to the DL like i thought. i met these women at the BEA and they gave me this book for free. i wished it was out when i needed it back in the early 90's but everything has it's season and this is book couldn't have come at a better time!
i hope women take heed of this invaluable info and stop going on looks alone. you have to look deep before you leap as Judge Mabeline would say; especially, if your man was on lock down for any extended amnount of time. you never know if he became someone's piece or made someone his, because he's not telling simply because he feels his manhood will be challenged. trust and believe he didn't stay behind bars all that time and didn't engage. Get tested ladies make him get tested time his foot touch the land of freedom and even then still make him wear protection until at least 6 months of negative testing has gone by.
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| Real Talk |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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While reading this book I was spreading the word to my sister-friends about it. Although I was aware of this type of man; the book brought many warning signs to the table and I was pleasantly surprised at how candied everyone was who was asked to participate in this book.
Women who have any sort of suspicions about their significant other might find some useful information in this book.
Single or married this is "need to know" information that might end up saving your life!!
Please don't be afraid to educate yourself on this subject and apply the knowledge.
So open your mind and pick up a copy of the book!!
Locksie
ARC Book Club Inc.
Star Rating 5.0*****
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| Nothing but the truth! |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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We have heard the calling for empathy from brothers on the down-low. Many of these men agonize over their lifestyle choices. Some down-low exposes that share similar points of views, while enlightening, have left something to be desired. This book shatters the polished shield of the down-low lifestyle.
Easily read in one sitting, The Straight-Up Truth provides eye opening details from the dl mans perspective. This book gives real life examples of statements made in their own environment and cracks the codes amongst the jargon.
What about the women? Will no one tell their story? Will no one understand their pain and tough decisions they are forced to make? The Straight-Up Truth gives these women, who have been betrayed, a voice. Life experiences are shared by several women as they deal with denial, depression and desperation once finding out the truth.
If this book does nothing else it teaches women to use and trust their intuition. This book also implores women to use their right to make their own choice while begging them to be informed about the choice they decide to make. This is not just another book about the down-low lifestyle. What you don't know can kill you. Every woman needs to read this book so that they can be educated. This book does not bash, it does not judge, it simply educates.
Reviewed by:
Nikkea Smithers
RWA Book Club President
www.myspace.com/rwabookclub
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