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Paperback
Publisher: Citadel
ISBN13: 9780806527277
Condition: NEW
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Addressing head-on the challenges of long-distance relationships with frank, practical advice and anecdotes, Separated by Duty, United in Love is perfect for military couples. It includes the answers and resources they need to meet the greatest challenge any relationship can face. With understanding born from over 20 years' experience as a military wife, author Shellie Vandevoorde tackles the tough issues from dealing with the struggle of being a single parent to infidelity, real or imagined. As divorce rates rise in the armed forces (the divorce rate among officers in the US Army tripled from 2001 to 2004) Separated by Duty, United in Love provides a practical hands-on guide that can help couples in every branch of the service.
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| Good Read. |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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This book is a good read. Being a new Navy wife I really needed some information and this book made me think about things I really wouldn't have with any other military wife guide book. It's a quick read as well.
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| Generally sound advice, but.... |
| Customer Rating: 3 out of 5 |
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The assumption that a service member's spouse is a wife was rampent throughout this book, and it got rather tiresome (especially for an Air Force husband of more than a decade).
Most of the advice was sound and well written, but very basic. She gives good advice, but most of the advice would benefit from a more detailed 'further reading' section, especially the parts about dealing with money and suspected infidelity. Despite this shortcoming, this is an excellent book for a new military spouse.
Regardless of disclaimers, the book was clearly written for military wives, not military spouses. What irks my wife, an active duty Air Force officer is the assumption that husbands don't need help, and are OK when the wife is away. What irks me is the implication that women shouldn't be in the military. To assume that the spouse is a wife is to assume that only men are in uniform. And by not making it clear that military husbands have most of the same challenges as the wives plus a few distinct ones, the statement is that men shouldn't be the ones on the home front. During my own military career, the female officers that I served with were, on the average, more competent than the males (although there were two or three that really tried to pull the rest down). It is not appropriate to send a message that these women serving our country in uniform shouldn't be there or shouldn't have husbands.
This one was good for new wives, but really struck a nerve for me.
E. M. Van Court
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| Separated by Duty |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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I needed this book as I'm in a serious relationship with an active duty Marine.
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| So Helpful! |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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As a new military wife, I didn't know where to look, but when I picked this book up at the Post Exchange, I read it one sitting, an more than one occasion. Vandevoorde knows what shes talking about, from the perspective of someone who was IN the military, and from the perspective of a military wife, which is something not every woman can claim. I use many of her lessons in my life now, and always refer back to her text when I'm struggling with deployment and military wife in general. A must read for any military family.
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| The most phenomenal deployment book! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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I'm an army girlfriend. My boyfriend is deployed to Iraq for 15 months. I bought this book in hopes of finding a little comfort and advice for situations military couples come across. Instead, I found a book I couldn't put down. The author did a wonderful job of taking life experiences from many different men and women, servicemembers and civilians and compiled them into a "crisis bible". The issues addressed are real-life issues. There are no "beating around the bush" answers and she really tells you how it is but in a very motherly, experienced fashion. I found this book has given me so much more strength and a positive outlook on a situation many significant others could not put themselves in. I suggest it to anyone. Whether your special someone is in the military, you're a parent, or even a friend. The advice is so real and helpful. My relationship has improved on both ends because of this book and the wonderful words of advice.
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