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Hardcover
Publisher: iUniverse, Inc.
Jane Rave
From the moment author Jane Rave received her son Robert’s momentous letter announcing he was gay, both their lives changed. While compiling the stories of their evolving relationship, Robert and Jane pondered whether unconditional love between a parent and child was possible after coming out. The resulting conversations and confessions, fraught with laughter and tears, helped them deal with their emotions. In Conversations and Cosmopolitans: How to Give Your Mother a Hangover, Robert and Jane cover a diverse range of subjects, such as: “point-if-ication,” being brainwashed into counting everything you eat and putting it into a point system; “me but Latin,” what most gay men are looking for in a potential mate; and a “M’Lynn moment,” based on Sally Field’s character in Steel Magnolias who lashes out at her friends in a fit of despair. Conversations and Cosmopolitans chronicles an extraordinary friendship that grows stronger as mother and son learn to be more honest with each other—and more honest with themselves.
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| Does Your Mother Know? |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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It's been said that a gay man's best friend is his mother, and Robert Rave and his mother Jane certainly seem to believe that. Their book, Conversations and Cosmopolitans: How to Give Your Mother a Hangover, is a coming out guide written from both the parent's and the child's point of view.
The book begins with Robert's coming out letter to his parents, and then uses his experiences to help fledgling gay men address issues with their folks, including boyfriend introductions, parental visits and hometown gossip. The funniest part of the book is the "gay glossary." Want your mom to know what you mean when you talk about that gym bunny you just met, or what DL and DQ mean in your world? The Raves show both mom's definition and Robert's.
Conversations and Cosmopolitans is nowhere near as comprehensive as some of the coming-out guides on the market, but it may be just the book to hand to your mom as you share a pair of cosmos and begin "the conversation."
Neil Plakcy, author of Mahu Surfer: A Hawaiian Mystery (An Alyson Mystery)
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| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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This is an honest and thoughtful story that also happens to be pretty damn funny -- you can tell there is a lot of love between the authors -- and it would make a nice gift for your mom this Christmas!
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| A must read! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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I finished this book in one sitting. It is smart, witty and touching. A must read, not only for families navigating their way through the same issues as Jane and Robert did after Robert came out to his parents, but for any family struggling to understand and reconcile the person their child grows up to become, with the person they imagined for the baby they brought into this world. This book shows that with a stable and loving base, families (especially mothers) have an amazing capacity to understand, adapt and have fun along the way! Hopefully, this book will create a dialogue between children and their parents that not only strengthens relationships but abolishes stereotypes.
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| Moving and touching! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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I've learned so much about what I want, and what I wish I had, with this book. Even though its a vision of a gay men.
And, also makes you feel like its possible to have a relantioship with your parents, that is at same time intimate and respectful, being a gay son/daughter.
But if your not gay, even so, these two have so much to tell you about life and growing.
and its funny!
loved it!
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| Hilarious and heartfelt |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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I love this book! It is so amazing to see a mother and son who love each other so much and who are honest with each other about who they are. Besides being touching at times, this book is hilarious and I laughed out loud many times. I could relate to a lot of it and sometimes wished I had had some of those conversations with my own mom. Anyone who is gay should read this book and mothers should too, whether they have a gay son/daughter or not, because this is a book about unconditional love. And we can all use some.
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